PARENTS SOWED WILD OATS IM REAPING IT what to do best answer 10points please read details?

We live in small community kinda desperate housewife wisteria lane.Everyone knows everyone,everyone meets everyone gossip rumors.My parents came back to their native place from abroad due to father being messed up by baby momma drama who fled with kid.After married they lived in their native place.My parents are people pleasers no respect for themselves let people take advantage of them being nice community members being taken for granted no boundaries.


Few examples-My parents parents emotional blackmailed them upon their return to live with them for 14years then made it seem like they were doing my parents a favour.My parents nephew nieces dont give them respect of uncle aunt instead they take them for granted take money dont repay it lie to their own parents about my parents.As long as its to do with my parents what they sowed they reaped is fine but now its shifted to me for no reason.I turned from short ugly betty to tall (after ops)beautiful(naturally)with 2degree im target now.

PARENTS SOWED WILD OATS IM REAPING IT what to do best answer 10points please read details?
target for what?
Reply:Move out, move on and start your own life I guess.





Your parents are adults and if they want to spend their lives as doormats you can be the little doormat or stand up and make your own way.
Reply:FInd somewhere else to live where no one knows you and you can make your own impressions. The image you and your family have will probably last through generations, whether they and you deserve it or not. If your parents can't leave, you still probably can sooner or later. Just live with it until you can get out and make your own life and don't listen to what people say.
Reply:No, now it's up to you to be the example! My Mom's a pushover and she's had to learn from me how not to be.
Reply:It seems like you are a lot like your parents to some extent and you don't realize it. So its tough their, what do you do? You want to run from it and leave everything and everybody involved in that behind. I have to be blunt and honest and tell you that if you do this you will set yourself up to repeat what they taught you. Yes, you recoginze its not the right way to live but you are having a hard time trying to redefine your life. I suggest that you set your personal bounderies and force others to live within them, or suffer the consequences. At the family gathering or where ever, if you are present then you stand up for your own self. If they want to know where you were- tell them truth. Not in a snobby way , but in a way that says I am who I am. Period. Now as far as your bf it depends on how he reacted to the info your cousin gave him. If he questioned you about it, and left it at that kool. But if he passed judgement and treated you differently about it. Then drop him
Reply:I really don't know except Do Not stoop to their level and Stand up to them! If you hear them talking about you or your parents give them an ear full of how you will not take it.Good Luck %26amp; God Bless You!
Reply:You lost me. This makes no sense. What is your question?
Reply:Take the target off your back. Let it be known you are your own person and that you wont be trampled, blackmailed or taken advantage of. Stand up for yourself and tell the people who try to go to hell. If they come to you for money either say no or get it in writing that they borrowed it and have it written when you expect to be paid back. Then when they dont, go after them in small claims court. Demand the respect you are entitled to and you shall get it. Better yet, divorce yourself from family and go out on your own